Family can put you through an intense guilt trip. A Reddit user shared her experience of how her father tried to convince her not to pursue college in order to stay home and “help the family.” Now, she’s grappling with the idea that prioritizing her own goals might have been selfish, especially after years of feeling the weight of being the responsible child. She wrote:
As a 19-year-old female, I’ve always been the “responsible daughter” in my family of five.
My older brother dropped out of school and returned home, while my younger sister is still in middle school. I received an acceptance letter from a good out-of-state college, along with a partial scholarship. Although it wasn’t fully covered, I could manage it financially, and I was thrilled to finally have something just for me.
However, my dad wasn’t pleased. He repeatedly suggested, “You should just go to community college and work part-time. We need you here.
Your mom is exhausted. The house needs a clean-up. Your sister looks up to you.” At first, it started off as subtle hints but quickly turned into guilt trips.
I was consistently reminded how “selfish” I was for wanting to leave. The hardest part? He stated, “If you go, don’t expect to come back to this home.”
He meant every word.
What happened next changed everything…
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